Argh

2008-03-12T08:22:25Z

Definitely don't feel good...

Questions questions

2008-03-10T12:39:36Z

Comment on this entry, and I will:

1. Tell you why I friended you.
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
3. Tell you something I like about you.
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.(LJ users)
7. In return, you must post this in your blog.

=D

Lost and found

2008-03-01T05:46:42Z

I've forgotten bout this account!!
Now, this makes it easy for me to post comments on all LiveJournal blogs!

Pls ignore my previous blog entry... That was waaayyyy back

Saying "I love you"

2005-07-02T09:56:04Z

Written by: Tan Cheng Yee

“Daddy, I love you!” exclaimed little Nicole as she ran to her father to give him a quick hug. The 1-year-old was in Tumble Tots, a private company where privileged kids are brought to learn as they play. If you’re wondering why I’m in Tumble Tots, it’s because I work there as a part-timer. It was Fathers’ Day and the kids were taught to say “I love you” to their fathers before getting their reward, a Tumble Tot sticker.

When was the last time I said “I love you” to my parents? Sadly, it’s more than 10 years ago. To these little children, saying the 3 words is as easy as ABC, but for adults or even youths like us, it has become a very difficult task.

I watched an episode of Channel U’s variety programme, Say Cheez where the hosts grab somebody off the streets to express their love for their significant other, friends or family members. One guy was asked to express his love for his father. He gave a little speech but still couldn’t bring himself to say the 3 words. He commented that saying “I love you” to his father was mushy but after some persuasion and help from his wife, he said in Chinese, “Father, I love you.”

Is it Asian culture that everyone is shy about saying those 3 words, or is it the fact that we often take our parents for granted?

Going by the same episode of Say Cheez, couples and even friends had no problem saying “I love you” to each other. Nor did they hesitate or comment on how mushy the statement was.

Just look at Valentines’ Day. There’re many ladies carrying bouquets of flowers as they stroll along Orchard Road with the love of their lives. Ever wondered why we don’t see mothers with flowers on Mothers’ Day? Is our love for parents any less than the love for our partners?

Since primary school, we’re taught Civics and Moral Education (CME) and “Hao Gong Ming” (Mandarin for good citizens). We learn about filial piety and its importance. We should always respect our parents and shower them with love.

I believe most Singaporeans love their parents but are just too shy to express this. I wish that would change and that everyone would say ”I love you” to their parents freely and unembarrassed.

On my part, I’ll be working harder at strengthening my relationships with my parents and siblings by spending more time with them. And with the addition of either a niece or nephew (my sister-in-law is pregnant!), I believe the ties within our family will be closer. It’s definitely difficult to take the first step but in time to come, I hope that I will be able to express my love for my parents openly and unembarrassed.

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Saying "I love you"